Choose Kindness Everyday

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On today’s episode of Boobs’ Love Letter, I’ll only say one thing.

Though let’s be honest, it’s going to lead to a lot more things.

This is not a one day conversation.

Choose Kindness Everyday.

Kindness has a funny way of softening your heart. It makes you pause. It nudges you toward loving like Christ. And in a world where everything feels like a clap back waiting to happen, kindness feels revolutionary.

You see, chaos is the order of the day out here. Everything is a reaction. Something said, something left unsaid, someone doing the most or doing absolutely nothing. Somehow, it all leans toward violence. Maybe not physical violence, but emotional. Spiritual. The type that hardens your heart over time.

If you are in Christ, that is not your rhythm. Kindness is. Not because people are always deserving, because let’s be real, they are not. But because that is the kind of person you are becoming.

Sometimes, kindness feels like being a Nigerian who wins the American lottery but never gets to leave. You followed all the rules. You hoped. You succeeded. Yet something beyond you keeps it from happening. And all you can do is live with that truth.

Kindness does not mean letting people walk all over you. It is not silence or shrinking. It is saying: I see how you are acting, but I will not match your energy. I will step back, yes. But I will not retaliate. I will not treat you the way you treated me. You cannot come closer, but I will not curse you out either.

Kindness is helping someone who once hurt you without needing to replay the memory first. It is peace without performance. Love without being loud about it. It is not withholding love, but it is also not letting it be taken for granted. It rids you of the offence your heart is about to build on the premise of someone else’s actions. It teaches you to let go, not for their sake, but for your own healing.

Just as Christ is, so you are. You have been made like him, so it has to reflect in your character. If Jesus can be kind to the ungrateful and the wicked, why can’t you? Do not even get me started with the “I no be Jesus” narrative or the “No be me kill Jesus.”
Na you kill am. And he still made you like him, even after his death.

Ephesians 4:32
Be kind to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

So be kind. Be kind to everyone. And no one. Be kind to yourself on the days when everything is too much, and on the days when it feels like nothing at all. Be kind when you do not get the things you wanted. Be kind when the group chat saw your birthday and kept scrolling. Wish them happy birthday on theirs, and move on. Clothe yourself with compassion. Because if Jesus can be kind to you even with your daily unfaithfulness, who are you not to ?

Colossians 3:12 (NIV)
As God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.

You are bigger than pettiness. Be kind when someone asks for free work but pays someone else for the same thing. Poor quality and all. Let life humble them. You do not have to. But hear me well: being kind does not mean being taken for granted.

Leave when you need to. Not out of pride, but out of clarity. You saw what it was. Do not second guess it. Kindness is not pretending. It is just choosing not to let bitterness win. It is loving people well, even from a distance.

It is walking away with grace, and still praying peace over the room you just left.